Why Explaining Yourself Makes It Worse
Why Explaining Yourself Makes It Worse Boundaries, Silence, and Nervous System Regulation Explaining yourself can feel like clarity—until it becomes a loop that escalates conflict and erodes self-trust. This article breaks down the nervous system mechanics underneath over-explaining, and why regulated silence and boundaries often restore control faster than more words. Table of contents Why explaining feels necessary The nervous system mismatch When explaining becomes a survival pattern How over-explaining gives up power Dysregulation becomes the leverage point When reality starts to feel unsteady Silence is not passive—it’s regulatory Why silence and distance change the dynamic Regulation is a two-way requirement Calm reduces attacks over time Silence as strength, not withdrawal Integration: knowledge, awareness, and ...