Quick summary: Insight helps you understand your patterns, but it doesn’t automatically change them. Real change happens when the nervous system learns safety through regulation, repetition, and chosen disengagement—before overload takes over. Many people reach a point where they understand themselves clearly. They can explain where their patterns came from. They can name their triggers. They can see, in hindsight, why a situation escalated or why they reacted the way they did. And yet — the reactions still happen. They still feel pulled into the same dynamics. They still over-explain, shut down, freeze, or escalate. Later, they’re left wondering why something they understand so well still has power in the moment. This isn’t a lack of insight. It’s a misunderstanding of how change actually happens. Insight and healing are not the same process Insight is cognitive. Healing is physiological. Insight happens in the thinking mind ...